Thursday, June 12, 2008

Hello, GoodBi

I've always argued that sexuality shouldn't be so pinned down, that it is more complicated than dividing desires into dichotomous camps to be labeled and never analyzed. In reality, it's not that simple. A new documentary that explores the relationship between women, their sexual desires and their sexuality seems to agree with me. It's called Bi the Way, and it's started discussions across the internetz, including over at Gawker, The New York Times and Salon.

The film seems to argue what us women have known for ages, but were perhaps too afraid to admit: sometimes, we like to kiss girls, and sometimes we can also get turned on by lesbian porn. With bisexuality becoming chic now (thanks Linlo and Samantha Ronson), I guess it was time to put these things onto a roll of film and send it out into the world. The studies found that women - despite sexuality - are turned on most by sensuality, which is most aptly portrayed in lesbian porn. What's more, women don't differentiate between gender the way that men do. There has always been more of a stigma against male/male relationships than with female/female. Perhaps men don't feel threatened by the lesbian dynamic and instead choose to use it to further their appreciation of the female form - okay, that's the overly PC way to put it. But according to these studies, biology matches up with society: men differentiate between gender during sex, while women don't.



Anonymous said...

i've kissed girls, always "straight" girls, and I've sort of liked the duality that comes with sort of being the "guy" or more aggressive role and also...maybe its just the alcohol. i wonder what vagina tastes like.

-A female, for sure

Melissa said...

I think this is echoed by the popularity of "I kissed a girl" by Katy Perry, #2 on itunes